By Dr. David Asbery, President of Fixing Fathers, Inc.
As men, we wear many hats—provider, protector, mentor, and leader. But there’s one role that often gets overlooked in the hustle and bustle of life: being present. In a world that constantly pulls us in a million directions, the simple act of showing up for our families and communities has never been more important.
When I started Fixing Fathers, Inc., I had one goal in mind: to help men reconnect with their families and rediscover the joy of fatherhood. Over the years, I’ve seen firsthand how transformative it can be when a father decides to be fully present—not just physically, but emotionally and mentally as well.
Why Presence Matters Studies show that children with involved fathers are more likely to succeed in school, have higher self-esteem, and develop healthier relationships. But beyond the statistics, being present sends a powerful message: You matter to me. It tells your kids that they are loved, valued, and worthy of your time.
For our communities, the impact is just as profound. When men step up and engage, they become role models—not just for their own children, but for every young person who’s watching. Your presence can inspire a child to dream bigger, work harder, and believe in themselves.
How to Be Present Being present doesn’t mean you have to be perfect. It’s about making small, intentional choices every day. Here are a few ways to start:
- Put Down the Phone: When you’re with your family, give them your undivided attention. Those texts and emails can wait.
- Create Traditions: Whether it’s a weekly game night or Sunday morning pancakes, traditions give your family something to look forward to and cherish.
- Listen Without Judgment: Sometimes, your kids just need to be heard. Let them share their thoughts and feelings without jumping in to fix or criticize.
- Show Up for the Little Things: It’s not just the big moments that matter. Be there for the soccer games, the school plays, and the bedtime stories.
The Ripple Effect When you’re present, you’re not just changing your family—you’re changing the world. Your kids will carry the lessons they learn from you into their own lives, and the cycle of love and leadership will continue. So, to all the fathers, uncles, brothers, and mentors out there: I challenge you to take a step back and ask yourself, Am I truly present? If the answer is no, it’s never too late to start. Your family and your community are waiting for you.
At Fixing Fathers, Inc., we’re here to support you on this journey. Together, we can build stronger families, stronger communities, and a brighter future for the next generation.